A Personal Request – Please Read Carefully

To those who know me personally, especially those whose children know mine:

I’m asking—from the bottom of my heart—please do not share what you’re about to read with your children, particularly those who know my two youngest.

Dan and I have done everything we can to protect them from the full truth.

If they knew… it would break them. We are still doing all we can to preserve their childhood, their safety, and their peace.

Please honour that for us.

I also want to say: forgive me for not sharing this through a video.

I’m not quite there yet in my healing. Putting it into words at all is a huge step for me.

So here goes.

For over three years, I’ve carried a secret.

I’ve masked pain, shame, fear, and the constant weight of being falsely accused of something that could have taken me from my children forever.

I didn’t open up because I felt unworthy. I didn’t want to be a burden.

I stopped trusting people.

I’ve smiled through courtrooms, surgeries, trauma, and silence—just trying to keep going for my kids.

This is one of the hardest things I’ve ever shared publicly.

I know that being vulnerable online can come with judgement and negativity—but I’m sharing this now because it’s part of something bigger.

A story that deserves to be heard—not just for me, but for others walking the same road.

So before you comment, please remember:

This isn’t just a post.

It’s someone’s real life.

Be kind. Be gentle. Pass no judgement.

I’ve already judged myself more than anyone ever could.

And I’ve been to the edge more than once—mentally, emotionally, physically.

If this reaches you and makes you pause, do one thing for me:

Next time someone reaches out—texts more than usual, calls unexpectedly, or just seems “off”—make the time.

Because you have no idea how much that moment might mean to someone barely holding on.

Thank you for reading. Thank you for caring.

And if you can’t say anything kind, please just scroll past.

Our Story: The Moment Everything Changed

We never imagined that a routine SEND Tribunal—one simply aimed at securing the right support for our six-year-old son with complex needs—would open the door to a nightmare we couldn’t wake up from. What began as a legal process to obtain the basic educational and care provisions our son was entitled to soon spiralled into something much darker. We found ourselves no longer just fighting for support, but fighting to survive a system so broken, it didn’t just fail us—it turned on us. Within weeks, we weren’t fearing loss—we were fearing prison.

Just days after that hard-fought Tribunal win in February 2023, we finally attended a long-awaited CAMHS appointment for our daughter. We were hopeful—expecting clarity about her behaviour, her struggles, her needs. Instead, it marked the beginning of something we never saw coming: a world built on lies, betrayal, and systemic manipulation.

Then, on 3rd May 2023, without warning, we were hit with devastating news: a safeguarding referral had been made against us—by our own son’s social worker, the very person who was meant to advocate for his carer. In the world of SEND, sadly, this kind of betrayal is not unfamiliar. But this time it went further. Much further. We were labelled with “Fabricated or Induced Illness” (FII)—a term we had never even heard of until January 2025, when it was finally revealed at a Child Protection Conference. Two years had passed since decisions were already being made behind closed doors, without our knowledge. (Indication of what I alone could of been facing!) 

Charges FII can fall under & their maximum prison sentences:

Offence Maximum Sentence Details

Child Cruelty (Children and Young Persons Act 1933) 10 years (Section 1 offence) Includes emotional, physical, or psychological abuse. FII usually falls here.

Grievous Bodily Harm (GBH) (Offences Against the Person Act 1861) Life imprisonment (for GBH with intent - Section 18) If illness is induced and causes serious harm.

Actual Bodily Harm (ABH) 5 years Less serious physical or psychological harm.

Administering a noxious substance (e.g. poisoning) 10 years If inducing illness by giving harmful substances.

Perverting the course of justice Life imprisonment If fabrications involve manipulating legal or court proceedings.

Throughout it all, we believed we were working in partnership with professionals. We spoke openly, shared reports, and trusted the process. But what we thought was support turned out to be silent surveillance. What we believed was collaboration became covert condemnation. A moment that should have marked progress for our family instead became the first step in an all-out battle to defend our names, our children, and our truth.

It wasn’t until months later—when we refused to stay silent, when we began demanding accountability and answers—that the full scope of what had been done to us began to emerge. The gaslighting, the bullying, the weaponising of our vulnerabilities, the refusal to acknowledge hard evidence—it became relentless. We filed Subject Access Requests. We pushed through exhaustion and fear. And what we uncovered was a darkness no parent should ever have to face.

The very services we had trusted for years—the ones we believed were there to help make our children better—were the ones fuelling the lies. But these weren’t the professionals we’d worked with throughout our son’s and daughter’s childhoods. These were new names. New faces. And they came not to help, but to destroy.

What Triggered the Referral

We asked for help. Instead, we were accused.

At the time we were awarded a full-time carer for our son—who has complex needs and was not even under any safeguarding concern. We had just won that case, despite the lies. Even then, the social worker involved gave fraudulent statements in court—statements that remain unchallenged to this day. Those lies, and the failure to hold anyone accountable, laid the groundwork for what followed on 27th February 2023.

Just days earlier, on 24th February 2023, our daughter had attended her second appointment at Walker Close for ongoing behavioural concerns. What should have been a straightforward step in her diagnostic journey became the spark for more false accusations—ones that would surface during our long-awaited Tribunal. That hearing was originally meant to secure her a place at a specialist school, alongside a full sensory assessment and carer support. Instead, it became a platform for misinformation and betrayal.

The referral to social services came directly from this time period. It followed a conversation I had with a CAMHS clinician during that second appointment. This session was arranged to revisit previous assessments. While Jasmine had not met the full threshold for an autism diagnosis initially, her paediatrician had referred her again due to ongoing concerns. During the appointment, I was told that, following a Multi-Disciplinary Team (MDT) review of her January 2023 session, they felt it was autism. I asked directly what that meant and what would happen next. I was informed Jasmine would be referred for a psychiatric assessment and a behavioural support plan within 28 days, to address her long-standing sensory difficulties.

While I was speaking, Jasmine was in a separate room with another clinician due to sensory overwhelm—she cannot cope in overstimulating environments or crowded spaces. Immediately after the session, in a follow-up conversation with both the clinician and Kirsty, I mentioned to Jasmine—as we were trying to get her ready for school—that she had autism. This was based entirely on what I had just been told in that appointment. But that simple, honest statement—one grounded in clinical feedback—was twisted and weaponised against me. It was cited as supposed “evidence” that I had fabricated her condition.

I later learned that the clinician gave a completely different version of events to social services, denying that a diagnosis had been communicated. I formally requested access to call recordings and CCTV footage from the clinic to verify the discussion, but have received no cooperation. If calls had been recorded, or if CCTV had been retained, this entire safeguarding ordeal could have been prevented.

And I can’t even begin to tell you the level of vicious, fraudulent information that was added to our legal documents—especially about my husband. It was so disgusting and false that, had it been believed, he could have faced prison time. This is a man who has no criminal record and has never even stepped foot inside a police station. The fact that such severe and damaging fabrications were allowed to remain unchallenged in legal paperwork is both terrifying and deeply unjust.

Impact on Our Family and the CP Process

We were dragged into a Child Protection process without transparency or fairness.

- I received a disturbing email late in the evening of 4th June 2023, the night before the CPC, stating that my son Luca was barred from attending due to “significant harmful information”. No evidence was provided.

- My adult son, Jadyn, was told he would be removed from the building if he attempted to support me at the meeting.

- Eventually, in the final CP meeting, Luca was allowed to attend and spoke honestly and supportively of me as his mother. He was pressured by professionals to say otherwise, but he remained composed and challenged their assumptions. He also confronted the school nurse, Laura, for failing to support him as promised—a truth he stood firm on, later receiving an apology.

Emotional and Mental Health Toll

This process has shattered us.

- It’s change my mindset on me returning to work or what type of  holistic therapies—especially not as a herbalist supporting families. The nature of the allegations creates fear of further false accusations.

- I now live in a state of constant anxiety and hyper-vigilance. My confidence as a parent and professional has been destroyed.

- This has taken a severe toll on my marriage. Both my husband and I experienced suicidal thoughts during the height of the investigation.

- My own ADHD and mental health history have been weaponised by services—not to offer support, but to justify their failings and attack my credibility.

Medical Failures and Negligence

These accusations were made in the same period that our daughter was being denied basic medical care. Jasmine:

- Dropped to 19kg,

- Was screaming in pain, vomiting, with a distended belly and visible bones,

- Was denied asthma and sleep medication,

- Was told her bowel issues were “normal.”

It took a life-threatening crisis to get her referred to hospital, where she finally received appropriate treatment. She is now 37kg, on proper medication, and improving—despite still being traumatised by the system’s response.

Later, I took a brave step and sought a private assessment, supported by the school. It confirmed that our daughter required further evaluation for ADHD and conduct disorder—conditions the NHS had completely withdrawn from investigating, despite having clear documentation from their own clinicians. Even more concerning, her behaviours—clearly evident throughout the entire Child Protection process—were consistently recorded but deliberately ignored by those involved.

Most shocking of all, we later discovered that our daughter had a long-standing condition called encopresis—a condition she had struggled with since toddlerhood, and one that is strongly linked to neurodiverse profiles. Yet we were never informed. Rather than take responsibility or offer support, professionals chose to look away. Their failure to act didn’t just delay care—it led directly to a decline in her physical and emotional health.

We Were Not Protecting Our Children Wrongly – We Were Trying to Save Them

We have spent years navigating complex diagnoses across all four of our children. It took four and a half years to finally get our six-year-old diagnosed with ADHD, and we fought—and won—a legal battle to secure our youngest child’s placement in a specialist educational setting. We were even granted carer support through social services after our persistent advocacy.

Given that history, it is completely illogical to suggest that I would suddenly fabricate anything. We had fought too long and too hard for that support.

This referral didn’t just attack my integrity—it jeopardised the care plan for my youngest son and placed enormous, unnecessary strain on our entire family, despite everything we had already proven about our commitment and love.

Conclusion and Call for Justice

This isn’t just a rant—and it’s only a fraction of our story. To share it all would take a novel. But what this is, without question, is a demand for truth and accountability.

Professionals we trusted chose to fabricate a narrative that served their own interests. In doing so, they inflicted lasting damage on a family already burdened with the daily challenges of complex needs. Rather than admit fault, they escalated their actions—going so far as to make false and deeply damaging claims, including unfounded sexual allegations. These lies shattered our mental health and traumatised our children.

We are not just parents. We are carers, fighters, and protectors—doing everything we can to hold our family together in a system that punishes honesty and preys on vulnerability.

We are not beneath the professionals. We are their equals. We are human beings—deserving of dignity, truth, and justice.

This story is not unique. But it’s ours. And we will not be silenced.

Three Years On: We Are Not the Same

I can’t leave this world—and the legacy we fought so hard to build—without knowing that when my time comes, I can rest easy. Knowing that my children will be safe, secure, and hopefully able to live a semi-normal life, despite their day-to-day challenges and complex needs.

And one thing is for sure: I will get justice. I will not leave this world remembered as something I am not—an  abuser. That is not my truth, and it never will be.